There’s also the possibility that maybe all these people “available” aren’t actually your cup of tea. Maybe figuring out what you want first should be the priority and that has nothing to do with a relationship, I mean your life goals, work/education/whatever. The happier the relationship the less likely either party was actively looking for it.. just my 2 cents. I’ve been single for.. 5 years now, so I’m probably not the best for relationship advice but being single has its perks too. Subconsciously I think we don’t allow ourselves to meet anyone until we’re ready or have found someone worthwhile regardless of their gender/orientation/etc.