Hmmmm. I mean I don't unmatch people if I don't want to go on a date with them again, because if they do want to reach out I don't want to take that away from them. Also having never been ghosted myself I can't really empathize but I can sympathize and understand that it would be really frustrating to make progress with someone, possibly even feeling good about it, and then find out in the worst way that your interpretation was totally off the mark.

But your perspective is illuminating. I think where I struggle is just that with the people I am dating, having a conversation on where we stand, to me shouldn't even be happening until after a few months. It's going to take me that long to actually feel like I have a good feel for who that person is. Also there is some truth to the idea that someone can only pretend to be a person they are not for about 3 months. Obviously if I go on a handful of dates with someone and then don't want to continue I would tell them. But more than something along the lines of I don't think I want to pursue this further.

But on the other hand, if the investment isn't there, it isn't there. If you meet someone as an acquaintance and hang out once and they don't reach out to you again to hang out as friends, would you consider that equally as unsavory? Does someone you aren't involved with romantically also owe you an explanation as to why they don't want to hang out with you? Or are they allowed to just not hang out with someone if they don't want to?

I think my perspective is that it's always a two way street. If someone doesn't make it clear to me that they want to be super serious about everything off the bat, I am under no obligation to take things there if I don't feel similarly.

I wholeheartedly agree that we all need to show each other respect and consideration as human beings. But I don't think it's as black and white as, you go on a date, or you hook up, causing one of the two people involved to be entitled to an in depth peak into the mind of the other party.

You can look at is as everyone is obligated/entitled, but you can just as easily look at it as the other party has a responsibility to assert themselves and ask questions they want answers to. I think I go with the latter, but as I said above I never unmatch or block anyone, I will just never feel that strongly about someone that I feel the need to erase their existence from my life. If they want to dig deeper then I have no problem with that.