I can’t get over what my boyfriend did

Jesus. This needs a lot of nuance, and I know going to get dog piled here, but people need to stop passing around dangerous misinformation.

OPs boyfriend has no excuse for not pulling out, but be careful. When you say "stop your penis" I'm hoping you mean "remove thier penis from your body". Otherwise cumming isn't something that you can "just stop".

Like in your masterbation scenario, that doesn't even work. Getting caught masturbating, one could stop stroking, sure, but if he's close enough he can cum without stroking and will not be able to reliably stop cumming any more than you can stop an orgasm. Doesn't matter if someones watching at that point. And you might be like "but some times I can stop in the middle". Cool, doubt that's reliable, but w/e, you know what that is equivalent to for a penis? Cumming half as much as you otherwise would have. Now that doesn't stop him from moving (mostly), but thiers no "magic stop cumming" button that men have.

It's like trying to stop a roller coaster before the down turn. Do it early enough, you're fine, wait too long to break and you won't be able to stop yourself on the other side.

Even with all of this, precum throws a big wrench into things, because you can:

A: precum without knowing B: precum with out warning.

With normal cumming, you get maybe a couple seconds of "warning", with precum, you might only notice after the fact. Precum however is not associated with an orgasm, it's associated with "stages of arousal".

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