This is fair, but The message could have been a bit nicer. This is a support forum after all.

OP- your ex clearly doesn’t want you in their life. Your best and only option, ultimately, is to disappear. Everything in the post describes a mutual toxicity. Yours is likely playing the victim. Until you get to the root of this - and this is about you- the pattern will repeat. Over and over. Victims tend to invite predators. So get used to it if you ignore it.

As for your ex. Well, they sound like they are reliving their own sort of hell. Over and over and over too. I wouldn’t read too much into the levels of stay away from me they enacted you vs their other ex. Just stay away. They are acting out of their own broken issues that have nothing to do with you. You’re just making yourself super annoying to them. The message is clear. Stay away. You’d be wise to heed them.

This isn’t a relationship that has the foundation to work. On both sides, from my perspective. I’m sorry for your pain. It’s best to leave this in the past and work on a better future.