You need to stop arguing back. That's the reaction your mom wants from you, to see that she visibly upset you. I was the same way and I used to argue back all the time. It does absolutely nothing but fuel the fire. Go grey rock. I did. It works... kind of.
Grey rock is where you become as exciting and interesting as, well, a grey rock. The goal is to blend into the background and become the most boring, nonreactive person they've ever met. The reason being is that if you can quit being a source of supply for their drama and attention, she will eventually leave you alone.
Do not respond with any emotion when she tries to provoke you. Keep in mind that because she has no values she has no empathy and no remorse. She only knows what you value by the level of your reaction. So to beat her at her own game and don't react. When you have to talk to her, only talk about boring things like your laundry or something. Don't talk about anything that will make her jealous or in any way encourages her to cause drama. When she tries to push your buttons (and she will), don't react. Example:
She screamed at me more, and I just stared at her, not responding. She then called me a disrespectful bitch for staring at her. I quietly left the room, and walked out of the house. After I cleared my mind and waited for my mother to calm down, I went back into the house.
You did good up until this point. You didn't let her see she upset you and gave her no reaction.
She started lying that I was complaining to her all day about a little headache I had, and how I made her do everything for me. I was furious. I yelled back at her.
Annndddd this is where you fucked up. She saw you weren't getting upset so she kept pushing your buttons until she made you upset. You're kinda already half grey rocking, you've just not got to react at all through out her whole entire episode. After a while you will have already heard her say anything and everything to get a reaction out of you and you'll be so used to it that it won't be difficult to not respond.
Don't try and get her to see how hurtful her behavior was (and is). Take all the blame for the relationship, and make her think it's not her it's you. Doing this takes away her ability to argue and create drama and chaos. As far as you are concerned there is nothing interesting about you, and if she blames you for everything just agree. Smile and nod and get away from her.
It is so, so, so hard to do. I get it. I really do. She will increasingly say more and more fucked up shit to try and get a reaction out of you and you have to ignore it/laugh it off/agree. I personally can't say I've not been provoked any less frequently using this method but it's a hell of a lot better than arguing back and works in some ways to an extent.