First, I never said I viewed them as straight trans men preying on lesbians. As far as I know, that doesn't exist, and it's a horrible thing if people think that actually exists. I just personally think that if two people introduce themselves, one a trans man unable to transition, and one a he/him lesbian, both telling me their pronouns, I wouldn't know how to tell the difference unless they tell me their genders outright.

Then please, please explain it to me. Because I want to know. I want to be good. I want to have this fit in my mind so that it doesn't cause me a headache. Why does a pronoun feel right if it isn't based on gender perception? For me, She/Her feels right because I'm a girl inside. Whenever someone calls me he/him because of this stupid fucking body, it's like someone just punched me in my chest, because it doesn't fit how I feel, my gender identity, so what makes one set of pronouns feel right if it's not about gender?