I can't deal with my husband watching porn

Ive been the guy in this kind of realtionship dynamic. I think alot of problems come from the fundamental differences between men and women, which is hugely exagerated by the way media manipulates us to be insecure. I think men tend to be a lot more visual as far as sexuality in general. Ive dated beautiful women who were so damn insecure they could never be comfortable in their bodies. No amount of reassurance seemed to put a dent in their body image issues. It didnt matter how attracted i was to them they could never let those insecurities go. I can only speak for myself here but the turn on of watching porn was watching women rock what they got. To draw a specific example, the last relationship i was in my girlfriend found a couple nude photos on my computer. Not anyone i knew or even a sexual act happening. Just girls posing nude in seductive poses. When my girlfriend found them she was definately upset. I could tell she was immediately trying to figure out what the girl in the photos had that she didnt. Comparing her body to the models body, Clearly fixated on the "attributes" of this "other girl". In my opinion the only thing the model had that my girlfriend didnt was the confidence to be seductive. I was way more attracted to my girlfriend than some photoshopped stranger that i would never meet and would likely not be interested if i met in real life. But that girlfriend would never let herself feel sexy enough to just let go and allow herself to be enjoyed. I wouldnt go so far as taking nude pictures or trying to directly emulate the pornography you partner is into but maybe some day just decide your gonna ignore that shitty voice in your head that tells you your not good enough and be the sexy girl your afraid your not. It might be awkward at first, you'll be new to it and he'll probaly know somethings up and will be trying to figure out whats going on but just take small steps. Act like you got the goods to get your mans attention and you'll probably realize you always did. You already got your man, you did the hard part, just trust that you got what he needs and show him you know it. Start small, dont get discouraged, and most importantly HAVE FUN WITH IT.

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