Can't help but worry when GF [25f] on bachelorette party

Two Three Four thoughts come to mind...

First. Ever watched someone try to hold an animal that doesn't want to be held? They squirm and struggle and want to be free. What you want is to build a relationship where they feel safe and loved and WANT to be held. Your actions are likely creating the very thing you are worried about... her wanting to 'escape' from your clutches. Think about that.

Second. You can't control her. You can't change her. You can only control and change yourself. This is true in all relationships.

Third. You sound like you're parenting her. You sound like my mother. Is that the dynamics you want in your relationship with her?

Final. You both sound young and inexperienced. Use this as a learning experience and ask a lot of questions. Questions about yourself. Why are you attracted to someone who values freedom and being carefree? Why do you need reassurances? The person you are now is still growing and evolving, and relationships like this are a goldmine in figuring out how to become a partner in a healthy relationship. But it's important to remember that the most important relationship you'll have in your life... is with yourself. Figure that out first and the rest falls into place.

You didn't actually ask a question in your post, so I'm hoping my comments will give you something to ponder. You're lucky because you've been presented with a life lesson and lots of people here are sharing insights to help you. Remember... if you don't learn what this issue is trying to teach you, it'll revisit you but be louder and stronger till you do get it.

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