can't get over guilt of losing my virginity

I've been in a similar boat, and it's such a horrible feeling. I'm so sorry you're feeling this way!

There are people out there who place a lot of value on virginity. But, what I've found is that there are many, many people who like it if you have experience! For me, dating and having sex with multiple people has allowed me to get past hangups I've had about sex (I'm sure there will always be some issues because reasons, but it's like night and day comparing myself to where I was before). And, from each person I've learned things that help improve my sex life/please my partner.

Your sex life is up to you. But it has nothing to do with your value as a person, or as a partner. And your partner should realize that.

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