Meh, it may actually be true. I refused to have sex with an ex- girlfriend for over a month because of insecurity on my part.

Having said that, the fact that this has gone on for 3 years still very much makes it bullshit.

At the very least it's continued this long because a great number of women have embraced being helpless victims. Learned helplessness is the most common trait I've noticed dating. "I'm insecure? Well shit, somebody had better fix this for me, or else my boyfriend will have to suffer forever."

On some level she probably expects him to fix her insecurity, and then when he can't, that's where she stops. Perpetually helpless to solve her own god damn problems.

Every woman I've dated has taken a passive role like that, even in the absence of malice. My brother's wife is the only woman I know who isn't like that, and according to my brother it took several years to make her understand the importance of fixing a problem yourself rather than letting years slip by hoping someone else fixes it.