Cautionary tale for anyone who considering a new relationship with an addict

How? ....I stopped being the mother, martyr, manager to a grown man. I let him go. I let him be. I No longer tried to run the show. No longer tried to change the things I could not. I found out who I was..and who I wasn't. I always had a choice but just didn't know it. I am no longer a victim. I am empowered. I have self worth and self esteem and dignity...addiction and alcoholism beat me down. I can say "no" without having explain. Boundaries are not a problem. I don't complain blame or explain. I really am free and happy. I live in today and have found acceptance of what is. My relationships are not enmeshed. I mind my own business. Other's lives are not my problem to fix. Nothing is perfect but I'm better than ever. Alanon was my guiding light. I am grateful. I

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