There were some sore feelings when I came out to my friends.

I came out to a dear friend's wife first, because she told me many times that she's always had bi-tendencies even though she's monogamous with him. I figured she was safer, and would help me tell him if she thought we needed to be delicate or something, because I wanted to do this and not lose my closest friends.

Turns out I sounded so distressed she thought I was in jail and needed help, so he was listening in when I came out to her.

He was super supportive, but a year later, she told me that it really hurt him because it seemed like I didn't trust him enough to be cool with it.

His opinion matters so much to me that if he did react badly it would have destroyed me. Like seriously, I was on a roof after an all night bender when I finally came out to them.

If you are lucky enough to have a friend like Chris and his wife are to me, then be prepared to have a conversation like that just in case, because it came off as not trusting him, and we're like, best friends. I only did it that way because I didn't trust how I would respond to his reaction.

Tim, my other friend, was a little hurt that I didn't tell him first, but he just had his first baby, and Chris' wife's being so candid about her sexuality kinda felt like an indicator that she might be cool, so...

Tim got enough drama out of it when I came out on facebook. I do owe those guys for the shit storm of questions that kicked up.