I could use some advice. When I started with an RE in the fall I told my sister about it - just the basics and what some future treatments options were. When I got my first treatment plan before I could say anything she started accusing me of being super stressed, obsessive about TTC, etc. I tried talking to her about her concerns since I had told her very little so far. Eventually she says that discussing my fertility is stressing her out. Of course I started crying. She says she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and we hung up.

Ever since we basically haven’t talked. I’ve texted her from time to time but it doesn’t lead to conversation. At Christmas she stayed with us for a week and she talked to my husband about it. He didn’t say anything but that we should work it out. But she never said anything to me and hasn’t contacted me since.

This is how it has always been - extremely one sided. I’m always supporting her, checking in, the one to initiate conversation, etc. She is too wrapped up in her own problems between mental and physical health issues, relationships, life, etc. I’ve talked to her in the past about being the only one to initiate conversation and she apologizes but nothing changes.

I’m just done. My husband thinks I’m angry and being petty. If she was texting me (ignoring the entire thing) I would still text her back but she doesn’t. All I’ve done is stop initiating conversation and suddenly unsurprisingly there is no conversation. Why do I need to reach out to maintain a relationship? Why am I always the one trying? I get she’s overwhelmed with life but am I not dealing with shit too?

What do I do here? Is this my fault? Maybe I talked too much about it and didn’t realize? She’s just avoiding talking to me to not get stressed about my problems? Should I just start talking to her again and pretend nothing happened?