Looking at the original post on the other sub, it's not the woman speaking for herself, it's a dude talking possessively about his wife as if he can speak for her endeavors. That seems even more problematic. At least by calling her "this chick" the OP here is noting her agency, which her husband is implicitly denying. If we're gonna be so damn critical about things in everyone's choice of words (I mean, isn't it problematic we're even speaking this imperialist language, the legacy of empires with so much blood on their hands?), there are a lot of, er, "problematic" things in the so-called original post. I'm not being facetious either. Although I am a straight male too, nothing irritates me more than guys who assume (and may or may not be implicitly supported in this by their... chick) that it is always more appropriate for them to speak for her rather than allow her to speak for herself in conversations with others. I realize there are plenty of cases where one person, who may happen to be the guy, is better at social stuff and enjoys that more, but in other cases it seems they have arrived at this state of things by default, that the man is the one who talks about "his" woman's endeavors/desires/likes/dislikes as if he knows absolutely EVERYTHING about her (when of course even any person does not know absolutely everything about themselves, and their lovers and even spouses don't either). This strikes me as one of the most disturbing of all the traditional male prerogatives because, unlike other forms of possessiveness relating to sex itself (a kind of possessiveness which, as un-PC as it is to say, many straight women tend to... actually enjoy... that is obviously, if it's a consensual act) this kind of possessiveness in conversational settings serves no purpose for EITHER partner but especially not for the woman, other than reaffirming "we are upholding traditional sex roles and I'm deferring to him cause he's the man and aren't I just so classically feminine to do that" or maybe "we're married and you're not! we're better/richer/etc. Nah nah nah." It's just bullshit. I don't care to hear about what "your" fucking wife is doing/thinks/believes unless she's mute or somehow unable to be present in the conversation. If she's actually here, she can fucking tell us herself. And if she's not here, it's perfectly appropriate to talk about her work as if she's, well, not here, and is this "chick" who has her own thing we should be paying attention to (and by the way, for the past few decades, "chick" has had more positive feminist badass connotations, and isn't typically the term of choice for people objectifying women these days) rather than waiting for the dude who apparently owns her to pipe up about his ladylike wife and her accomplishments- now THAT's retrograde.