Children of parents who 'stayed together for the kids' despite being miserable, how was/is it?

It noticed when I was six. My parents were arguing a lot more than I noticed. As a few years passed, it progressively grew worse and worse. Everyday, my Mom would be crying and my Dad would be screaming. There wasn't an achaholic or drug issues. But stress was rising between them. Anyways, I had tutors and coaches for sports and none of them knew my issue. None knew about the stress and pressure. Some days I would just start crying in front of them, and I never told them what was happening. I just cried. In 5th grade, my Mom had asked me who I would want to be with if they divorced. I couldn't answer. I loved both my parents, and I couldn't just choose between one. There was just silence after she asked me. Life really sucked. It wasn't that I had bad grades. I had good grades. I did really well in sports. It's just I didn't have a family to be happy with or to celebrate my achievements. No matter what I did, it was just more arguing. The only people who were there was my brothers and sister. They talked with me and reminded me I had a family, but my parents fighting still hurt me a lot. Finally, I reached 6th grade and I had enough. I didn't talk to them at all. I just cried when I was home. My brothers and sisters probably knew my pain, and tried to stay out of my problems. After a week, they noticed how I wasn't paying attention anymore. Noticed how I was just filled with sorrow and sadness. One night, they came to my room. I was scared they were going to scream at me for ignoring them, but they only apologized for what they were doing. They apologized for making my life stressful. It left me in tears of joy. Knowing that the days of fighting were over. They haven't argued or screamed like that since then. My brothers and sisters still have a good relationship. I'm just glad I held up, and I understand the pain of people who have to deal with parents like that. It's terrible, and I know my parents understand the pain also. I love my family. I deeply care about them.

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