No need to apologise, it's good to express your opinions. I assume you have a more open view than your father.

I think your father has a conservative mindset which is common among the older age group who grew up in a less globalised world and therefore have a more nationalist outlook. They value their own race over others which is a view that is almost impossible to change.

However, the current generation having grown up in a more globalised world who wants just as you said for greater tolerance among all races and religion.

he just doesn't want the Chinese to take over the government on like how Singapore was taken over by Chinese he said. it is too late though with that China investment thingy.

I think he's just misinformed. The effect of Chinese investment on Brunei's sovereignty is completely overblown. The government is currently doing a very good job in keeping Bruneian interests in mind in the Hengyi project.