Sure, I'd probably be having more sex and better sex if I wasn't a Christian
I dunno. My wife was my first date. I was 15. She was my first (and only) pretty much everything except kiss. Same with her. I recently turned 50.
I mentioned to her that I'm pretty sure (I am sure, just leaving that open to see her reaction) that 2016 had us engage in more sex than any point in our marriage. She said "oh, yes, without a doubt".
There are various reasons for this, a lot by way of the sidebar that didn't teach me anything new it just rekindled that which was natural within me but had been atrophied because I was intent on forging the Disney marriage where we talked things through and I was nice and tried to convince her to want to do the things I liked. <---- doesn't work
Lifting wasn't the problem. I've been doing that for around 20 years (over 6'5" 240 lbs).
Instead, I read most of the sidebar (the gaming stuff isn't for me) and went back to my bible. There, it all fell back into place. I needed to start pursuing her again, start initiating with her again, stop trying to please her first in bed, and continuously lead. That was in the sidebar. Getting her to submit was in the Bible. It's right there, on multiple occasions, in the writings of Paul: Husbands love, wifes submit, children obey and parents do not provoke. Well, she can't submit if I'm busy coddling her feelz and trying to do what she wants. She submits when I LEAD. You don't submit to someone you have dominion over, after all.
So, I started leading again. Like I did when we fell for each other.
That brings me to 2017, where in a bad week I only get one BJ (getting regular unsolicited BJ's again, as well) or have sex twice. When she's on her period, I generally either tell her I want a BJ or simply walk up to her & pull out my erection and she goes to work. No more do I say "gee, it's been a long time since..." or "I sure wish you'd....". I just pull it out and say "I want you to pleasure me....now".
She openly admits that she mate guards, she openly admits that she's submissive and just today she says that unless she's sick or in some ways bound, she will not say no to me (she's sick, so she had to say no today...it's been two days, so I had initiated again. A few years back I'd have coddled her back to health & then gauged her mood, then tested the waters to make sure it was 'okay' to try to convince her to engage in sex).
And I can say with all honesty that a big reason I'm still attracted to her is that she's a fellow Christian who lives her beliefs. That means not only isn't Chad a problem - never was but really isn't now that she's long past the wall - she isn't interested in looking for a Chad. She has a husband who loves her, so she submits. I read some of the stuff around here & other places about wives having EAs or dudes worrying about flirty wives and I'm overjoyed that I'm a Christian man (who is a good man, not a 'nice guy') married to a Christian woman who want to spend time with her husband, even to the point of joining me in my workouts (part of her mate guarding, which she admitted).
I just wish I'd started leading with emphasis sooner. She longed for it, I just never realized how much. And it's all part of God's plan, laid out clearly in the bible. We're supposed to be banging each other silly. So, we are.