He admitted he knew nothing about her and didn't bother to learn in the MANY months before the show started filming (he wasn't allowed to contact her, but of course he could google her and watch her seasons since the point of this is the men want to pursue a possible engagement with the lead), and he didn't try to get one on one time with her before (he admitted) but "knew" she had feelings for him despite their lack of time alone (very conceited on his part). He had plenty of time to say what he liked about her during their chat, she asked him a few times, or to try to get time with her before this, and to NOT claim the other guys cared as little as he did to find out more about her before filming so it wasn't a big deal he didn't bother. She asked him to clarify and he couldn't, he just looked at her, so it wasn't just 0.1 seconds, it was a situation of a guy who could have 30 minutes or five hours and still have no answer because he didn't care about Clare at all. He came across as ONLY wanting to be on the show for himself and becoming the Bachelor or getting groupies. A guy who liked the lead would have looked her up (as most did on most seasons who really liked the lead).

When he whispered "Can we not talk about this?" that was for HIS sake, to look good on camera, because he was VERY aware the cameras were there and his image was more important to him than connecting to her.

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He had exactly 0.1 seconds to attempt to get to know her

He wasn't trying to get to know her. "So you're from Sacramento, born and raised?" sounds like they were speed dating and he was looking forward to meeting a bunch of other girls after her and ask the same thing. I agree with her in that I wouldn't have wasted ANY time on a guy who didn't think I was worth a little googling and came across as lazy about pursuing- something Clare said is important to her.