CMV: 25 is NOT young for a woman who wants children

I really wouldn’t worry too much. My mom was worried about this exact thing so she had me (her oldest) when she was just a week past 25 years old. She had nothing to worry about though because she continued having kids for TWENTY years. Seriously. She had her fifth & last child when she was 45. And honestly, from what I’ve experienced I think sometimes it’s better to have your kids a little later. Yes, being an older parent has it’s drawbacks. But it also has some positives. I mean you barely know who you are or what life has in store for you at 25. How many people are still working the same job at 50 that they are at 25? How many still live in the same house? Or are in the same relationship? I know some couples last but the majority do not. My mom was madly in love with my father at 25 when they had me. 2 years later they were divorced. Not one of my aunts or cousins or grandparents are still with the same guy now that they were with at 25. And most 25 year olds are still living it up, drinking, going out, having fun. They’ve only been legally able to drink for four years or less. Most are right out of college. Life is just beginning. And the majority of them will not make the greatest parents. I definitely had an entirely different life with my 25 year old mom than my youngest sibling did with the same mom at 45. When I was born, we lived in a tiny row home. Full of old mismatched furniture from the thrift store. We didn’t have a backyard. My parents were young and fun. My mom barely knew how to cook. She wasn’t big on helping with homework and she didn’t know much about being a parent. I spent a lot of time with sitters because my parents went out most nights. Lots of parties. Lots of drinking. Their marriage was short lived and they divorced when I was two. My mom grew up a lot over 20 years. She’s a successful business owner and works from home. Her second husband is an eye doctor. They have a beautifully decorated 4,000sq foot house in the suburbs with a huge backyard. They don’t drink, or smoke, or party. Their younger kids get all their attention. She walks them to school. She helps with homework. She cooks dinner. She’s in the PTA. She always has time for them. They never have to worry about whether mom will have enough money to buy them Christmas gifts. Their lives are normal and predictable and stable.

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