CMV: I hate everything about modern society

I get where your coming from and depending on where you live the early 20's modern society is probable the worst place to be for the points that you mention. You can ask questions such as what kind of meaning should a person have in regard to sex when they grow up being bombarded with it everywhere you look for meaningless things such as to sell consumer products?

One thing that I have learned in my experience is that when you find yourself in a situation to where your miserable and you just don't like the things around you is that its up to you to change. You will never get society to change for you and you cannot change others. You can change things such as your perspective, or your situation. Why not go try living in another state or another city or town? Don't just assume it is the same everywhere, don't read what people say about places, actually move there and live there for a while and experience it first hand. Then if it isn't what you want try somewhere else, and don't stop until you find a place you can live with people that don't make you miserable. Find meaning in things that are important to you and then work to find other who share those things and surround yourself with them. Part of they key do doing that in my opinion is finding a way to be considerate and open of others. You may never find anyone who will agree with everything you do 100%. A good many religious people do view sex as meaningful so that is something that you share with a good many people. Accept that its okay for people to be judgmental, ignorant, self centered, stupid, and wrong. Every single person that is alive for the first part of their lives are at the mercy of whoever is raising them. People have to learn to think for themselves, learn what things really mean to them, and then figure out how to live with everyone else.

Take the example of your girl friend, she had been with other guys before you and you found that repulsive. Maybe she has never experienced a relationship where sex was an extension of love instead of a bodily function. That could be a way of life that you could bring into her perspective and change how she views a relationship should be.

At the end of the day we are all just people with perspectives that could be right, could be wrong, or can be changed. We all learn and grow with experience and wisdom with the passing of time. Don't view modern society as something to hate, think of it as something that has help you define your own beliefs. Seek out others who feel the same, they do exist and they are out there. Get better at expressing your beliefs to others and you may even find a few that you can get them to see that they agree and then question there own perspectives and then they can change themselves.

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