CMV: I'm a straight male against dating bisexual women.

To be honest, I barely even accept "bisexual" as a real thing. (It was never spoken of in society until around 10-15 years ago; now every other woman claims to be "bi" and says how much she loves going down on women.)

Where did you get this idea? You even mention Kinsey in your post, which confuses me considering he released the first two volumes of the Kinsey Reports in 1948 and had been discussing and researching human sexuality as a spectrum and not a binary attribute at least a decade before that. He's also by no means the first, humans being attracted to both sexes is documented pretty much back to the beginning of recorded history.

A. Any girl who claims to be 'bisexual' would want a woman way more than she would ever a guy. She literally has double the options to potentially cheat or leave me for someone else, and cheating/being dumped is even a problem in straight couple relationships. (I'm a guy and even I don't know why women would want us over other women and their soft, supple bodies just made for giving and receiving pleasure.)

B. Constantly having to compete with women for her attention. (I can't compete with boobs!)

These are essentially the same thing, fear of being rejected by a current lover in favor of another person. I'd argue that how flirtatious a person is, and how monogamous they want to be, have significantly more to do with this fear than their sexual orientation. You're seeing "A" through the eyes of a heterosexual male, of course she would rather be with a woman in your eyes as it mirrors your own feelings. This hypothetical person isn't homosexual, they're bisexual - and you're very well equipped to meet their sexual needs.

C. A 'bisexual' girl's very likely (in my view) not going to be monogamous, and I'm not into three-ways, lesbians, or an "open relationship."

D. A 'bisexual' girl's very likely to not want a relationship; just casual sex and "fooling around." (Men on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and women on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and the weekend, I'd assume.)

Same deal here, "C" and "D" are essentially the same fear - someone who is bisexual must have a more active sex drive and no desire for monogamy. Have you considered that this view is based on a very particular, incredibly narrow type of person who is "openly bisexual" in a college/club setting and not on the greater population? I'm a 28 year old bisexual male, I've known I was attracted to both men and women my entire life. I'm also 13 years into a monogamous relationship with my high school girlfriend whom I've never cheated on, nor had a strong desire to cheat on. The vast majority of people in my life don't know I'm bisexual because, honestly, it has no real reason to come up. I don't have some strong desire to suck a dick tomorrow, but if my current relationship failed I'd have no real preference in who I was with next - it would just boil down to who I started to fall in love with.

I also have no desire for an open relationship. Long term relationships go through ups and downs, inviting other people in (even if everyone feels equally attracted to all parties in the beginning) just invites a wedge that can take the downs to extremes I find scary.

So if the whole theory that "'bisexuals' (and pansexuals) are less shallow and more into who a person truly are," then they would be a more suitable choice for me to go after, assuming this is true.

I also don't think this is even remotely true. Whether it's a positive or a negative you're still trying to paint a group based on one not very relevant factor. It's like saying you could never be attracted to people who drive red cars because they have really active sex drives and tend to cheat. Sure, there may be a pop-culture image of a sexy dude in jeans and a white t-shirt smoking a cigarette whoring his way through town - but does that accurately represent everyone who drives red cars? I drive a red car, and I'm not a whore.

Being bisexual means that I'm sexually attracted to both men and women. Full stop. End of relevancy. It has nothing to do with who I am as a person other than that, though it did complicate life a bit growing up. Do some people wear their sexuality as a large part of their personality? Absolutely. Does that represent everyone with that sexuality? Not even close. A cheater is going to cheat, someone who want's an open relationship is going to want an open relationship, their sexual orientation isn't really a factor there. The only reason it appears to be a factor is that you yourself only get exposed to a very, very small subset of people outside of your hetero-normative expectations. The reason for this is that even if you and I were great friends you would only ever consider me to be a heterosexual unless I explicitly told you otherwise. It's really, really easy to turn off the "mention how hot that guy's back is" valve when I'm around male friends and a lifetime of conditioning has made me feel like it's a good idea to do so.

Should you date a bisexual woman? That really depends. Is there a woman who you have a crush on? Does her idea of a relationship mesh well with your idea of a relationship? Are you sexually attracted to one another? If you've answered yes to all of those things, I don't see how her potential attraction to women needs to be relevant one way or the other.

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