CMV: IVF and assisted-reproductive technologies are selfish.

As someone who’s been through the system and was the child in a failure of an adoption I had annulled myself, these children are up for adoption for a variety of reasons. Some come from traumatic childhoods and homes, but not everyone fits that trope. Some of these families were ripped apart because it was easier/cheaper to seize the child and regime rather than to provide ongoing supports for these families. Recognizing biological families to be important to children has only been a fairly recent outlook. Some of these parents fought tooth and nail in an uphill fight against a system rigged against them to keep their families together and still lost. The fact is, there’s money in children. You can look at some cities and see a system overrun with children needing safe homes, and you can look at other cities where social workers will look for any reason to seize a child because it keeps them in a job and it keeps others in the social work industry in a job. That’s a reality that’s just as sad as a kid needing a family because they lost a parent to a drug overdose. Some of these kids have families who love them and want them but it’s more profitable to the state to sever parental ties and adopt them. People don’t want to believe this, but it’s true. Then you have the ppl looking to adopt these kids like your friends who see themselves as saviours, and at the same time also resent these children because they’re not biological to themselves. Infertility does terrible things to ppl, you want a child so badly but can too easily resent a child you adopted because it’s not the perfect child you would’ve had biologically. Not al adoption is bad, not all foster homes and social workers are bad, but there are bad ones people want to ignore

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