Cmv: Losing your virginity as an adult and/or pursing/having sexual and romantic relationships as a grown adult is worthless and absolutely crummy and nothing to be happy or excited about compared to having the same experiences as a teenager

Hi I'm a guy who lost his virginity (and even first kissed a girl...) after the age you are now by about a year. At the time I remember being somewhat self-conscious about it because my friends were having sex and I wasn't. I actually really resonate with what you posted because I was/am also very goal based and still am.

Some teens have a lot of sex, and generally that's because they happen to have a specific combination of hormones that allows it. If, in the long term, you want to be successful with women, there are I think 3 things that are within your control (or at least has been the case with me):

appearance - (can be change with gym/diet etc - personally I noticed a VERY significant change after working out)

personality - women are people too! Being desirable in social situations is basically just practice. I really encourage you to get as involved in as many social circles as are available to you

be fucking normal - this isn't really a point in itself, but seriously man women are people and they like being treated as such.

This is the advice I wish I had 5 years ago when I was your age so hopefully it can be some use to you. The key point is treat women as people. If you do that I absolutely guarantee that you'll have a girlfriend soon enough.

Good luck! and DM me anything if you feel like it

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