You are supposed to be working together. The only time a partner should give you an orgasm is during oral, and even then you can do a lot to help yourself.

The way a woman gives herself an orgasm is by using her fingers to play with her clitoris. There is no reason a man cannot do that to her during their sexual intercourse. The only reason men don't is because they don't realize they should or they're too lazy or selfish to try.

A woman could do that to herself while having intercourse with a man, but then, what's even the point of having intercourse with a partner at that point? If she's the only one of the two focusing on giving her any pleasure, and her partner isn't trying to do that, then what is even happening? The partner is just using her as a vessel to thrust into for his own orgasm but not even caring about hers? Why can't he just use one hand to stimulate her pleasure while she's moving up and down on top of him for his pleasure? (That would be the lady on top position that I'm referring to.)

I've also met many partners who had never gotten off before. That is not something which appears to happen with men & boggles my mind.

That's also not something that happens in women past their teenage/very early 20s. I think your perspective might be tainted by your experience which seems to be with very young women. Remember that like anything else in life, sex takes practice. Young people just starting out don't know what they're doing and don't know how to do it well. I have no doubt that many young women in their teens or early twenties haven't had an orgasm yet, but that won't last. That certainly is not the case with women in general.