The question was rhetorical, and I don't advocate for infidelity, and I'm so sorry I was so callous, but can you see why inter-gender communication is so difficult, or why men lie about so many things?
"Nate is almost too real. Mark my words: this book will inspire laughter, chills of recognition and flights into lesbianism." - Lena Dunham, on The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P - a novel that's a banal first-person account of how men see the world, accentuating the parts that women would usually find offensive.
I think women can see this sense of justice as calculating and unromantic (edit: you just did) hence why the concept of SMV is offensive. In a way, women can love more deeply, more irrationally than men, and maybe this is why some feminists say that men are incapable of love - I read an interview of a supermodel once, and she was dating her model scout at the time. When someone asked her what her ideal man looked like, she said her boyfriend, and I believe she was sincere. Her boyfriend was a loser - a bald man shorter than her, a model scout, but she was in love. A man could never say the same - even if he was madly in love with a 6, the ecstasy of first love would bump her up to a 7.5 max. I've seen 10/10 models date, and even marry, hair-dressers, photographer assistants, and other randos in the fashion industry - simply because they were there. Sometimes when I read stories about women who are angry at their friends with benefits for not committing to them, I think: could they really be so dumb to think that they could snag someone of such a higher SMV? But then I think of these models dating absolute losers, and I think maybe the Holocaust story wasn't story planned, but just an accident after all, that women are often really just that bad at assessing their own SMV (although this isn't 100%, I heard someone post once that a girl once said to him "you look like the kind of guy I would marry, not sleep with in college).
This is assuming I approach my marriage as a transaction, which I don't.
And I don't think desperatelydoneover's wife didn't view their marriage as a transaction either. She decided that he never loved her at all, and should be punished accordingly.
I think I said before that I don't think women are capable of loving men as men want to be loved, but I don't think men are capable of loving women in the way that women want to be loved, and I suppose that's profoundly alienating.