CMV: Men's unresolved fear of shame and vulnerability keep them from grasping the culture of misogyny

This sounds very much like a "You're with us or your against us"

Why is that a problem when it comes to sexual assault and the treatment of women in our society then? It is a societal problem. As a society we fetishize women while devaluing femininity and women as a whole. These are parts of our problem as a society and it isn't a with us or against us thing it is a burning neighborhood and everyone really needs to acknowledge we have a problem before it moves anywhere. Arguing if we do or do not have a problem or who has a problem is pulling apart strings.

OP I think is literally saying what your reaction is. Why does the fact it feels like a big issue you're forced to have an opinion on frustrate you? It is a problem, you do need an opinion on it. It seems your opinion is that it is shitty and you don't do it/socialize with people that do. Suddenly it isn't your responsibility because you're in no position to do anything about it. But you are, you can openly say yeah this is shitty, I don't support it and I'm gonna teach people around me why instead of being miffed at a problem OP doesn't have power to decided for our society. It isn't OP asking you to pick a side, it is like the problem itself is so big it is forcing something to happen.

Either we sweep it under the rug or everyone agrees that is fucked up. Like that's how slavery was conquered. But the bystander effect is real, it took a lot of time and effort to get people on board with ending slavery.

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