Have you ever done it? Cause I have.
From 13-22 my mom and myself became a placement home for foster kids and we adopted a set of three siblings.
You have no idea what you're talking about. And I am going to give you some cold, hard realities. But I want to do so with the caveat that I love my siblings (not really siblings, I was an adult by the time I met them) and I'd do it all over again. None of this should dissuade someone from taking in a child, or that my experience is the be all, end all of someone's experience.
There are roughly half a million children in the US alone who are in orphanages or don't have permanent homes.
Yes. But have you every actually looked up the kids that are available? Go do it right now. You're going to find three huge commonalities.
But let's move on. Because that list is hardly comprehensive. Most kids in "the system" aren't on that list, and the reason for that is because they are still in the limbo of foster care. And that's a WHOLE other can of worms. Here are some basic reasons why:
There are also realities of biology in play. I am not essentialist in my viewpoint, I believe in nurture, but there are reasons people want a biological child that aren't all vanity and bullshit. There are personality quirks and emotional needs that do not mesh well. This episode of This American Life does a wonderful job of illustrating how much of your selfhood is hard-wired in your biology. That doesn't mean you'll be unloved or unwanted. It just means biology matters in terms of bonding. Clearly, there are instances where this isn't the case and instances in which this is incredibly dramatic. But there are real, biological pre-conditions that help you or hurt you in a family dynamic. You can't ignore that as though it isn't real.
You don't know what you're talking about. You have no sense of the nuance or complications that go into the plan you propose. When all is said and done, fertility treatment is by far the easier option, in my point of view.