I would like to add to your thinking as a parent. When you have young kids (I have a 4yo and an 8 week old), you are tired (they get up early and often), and poor (daycare man). And your life generally revolves around their needs. Most other adults are genuinely sympathetic to your situation. In the midst of raising young children, you come to a point where you are exhausted and sometimes frustrated. You are doing your best to raise them right and care for them. After that, at least for me, your field of fucks is spent, it is barren. Your bucket of fucks is empty, those kids drilled a big-ass hole in it. If someone gets upset that you’re late, or that your kids are being noisy, you just don’t give even the slightest of fucks about what they think. It’s often not out of malice, you simply can’t afford to spend mental energy on it, your kids are too important to spend time on petty stuff like that.
Now as for complaining, I get it, OP doesn’t care. But parents who’ve been through it, oh they do. They love telling you to “flip” the baby, or just sleep when the kid sleeps, often knowing it will do fuck all to help. They know you will just have to endure, make the best of it, because they know it will get better, but right now can suck.