CMV: There are more negatives than positives for men in their 20’s to date.

I still think you don’t get my point. Don’t know if it’s on purpose or you just can’t understand what I’m saying.

I’m talking about men who are already struggling to date. Not men who don’t have issues dating. Men who are struggling to date, should give up on dating itself to focus on themselves and not on the obvious frustrating process that’s more likely to frustrate them even more.

That’s literally how incels are created. They struggle with dating, and still care so much about it, and they still lurk on dating apps holding on to hope that someone will like that, and when they get rejected, the vicious cycle continues.

I have an issue with how society emphasises that men who lose their virginities, are good looking, rich or have tons of sexual relationships are considered successful. And that also stems from patriarchy and toxic masculinity.

If men in their 20’s who struggle to date, just give up on dating and focus on themselves and their mental health, that would be so much better for them. Online dating has further strengthened the idea of toxic masculinity and patriarchy, and with expectations that if you are a virgin, aren’t rich, aren’t good looking, and don’t have many sexual relationships = being a loser.

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