Is that really what it's like? I'm not too familiar with Tinder dynamics. Based on the upvote ratio and the majority of comments in this thread, I'm a lot more out of touch than I thought. How long does it generally take to move past the superficial pick-up artistry stage and on to the sort of meaningful conversation that allows relationships to develop? If Tinder was just a hook up, fuck all weekend, then dump each other on Monday type of app, why, in my limited experience, does it appear that the majority of male users on there are archetypal niceguys? Since the app is so clearly chock full of desperate losers searching for their personal fantasy woman, why do these posts even attract attention? It reinforces the idea that it should be the norm, which, in turn, only serves to create more creepy men and emotionally unavailable women. Couples that make a positive impact on each other don't act like this.

Factoring in Reddit demographics, a good portion of the people voting and commenting here probably fall in the category of the male Tinder user above. I don't understand why they wouldn't be more critical of this type of behavior. From what I infer, the biggest advocates for upholding conventional male and female roles in online dating are those who presumably benefit from it the least.

I agree that this sort of dismissive behavior toward members of the opposite sex would be socially unacceptable offline. However, I fear that may be changing. The inundation of this behavior online is no doubt influencing and reinforcing the same behavior offline. Both genders are under tremendous social pressure to enter relationships ostentatiously. I think it's making men and women fear each other for no reason.

As a result of online dating apps like Tinder, expectations of what dating and relationships are supposed to be like has destroyed self-confidence. Diagnosed and especially self-reported rates of mental disorders are through the roof. Depression, anxiety, body dysmorphia... the list goes on. Good people are staying single. More single people and more people forced into fake/toxic ritual relationships equals more unhappy people.