On the other side of this, a person shouldn’t be shunned based on perception alone. My soon to be ex wife and I have been separated over a year now. I’ve always identified as bisexual/pansexual (still working things out). I’ve only ever dated my wife, and a few months ago I decided to try and date guys for the first time and created a dating profile. Someone at work noticed and the rumor going around is that I’ve always been gay and I abandoned my wife and kids to live some fantasy lifestyle. It’s really none of their business and I haven’t felt the need to confront anyone about it, but it sucks to be judged like this. My kids are still with me 50% of the time and I love them to pieces. My wife has left me 5+ times over the course of our relationship of 13 years, usually because I wasn’t romantic enough or she wanted to date other guys or other reasons I still don’t understand. Yet people think that I’m some evil immoral heathen who masterminded the destruction of a family.