I was married 20 years. My ex cheated on me. And the funny part is he never wanted sex, & I did! You’d think I would’ve been the cheater, lol. I know my ex loved me, & didn’t want a divorce. But he also wanted to sleep around, a lot. When I asked him why, he point blank told me he could get someone half my age & gorgeous (We’re both mid-40’s. I’m actually very pretty, but damn that’s hard to hear.). Now, 4 years later I’m single by choice & he’s been remarried since a year after our divorce. She’s older than him & not as pretty as me, lol. The irony cracks me up.

I agree with you, though. If I had wanted someone else or many others, I would’ve divorced him, then pursued another relationship or many relationships. Even when I was getting divorced, I wouldn’t look at a guy until I was divorced on paper, even when he was cheating on me actively. In fact, I didn’t date for a year afterward. I needed to take time to mourn the loss of my marriage & get over loving him completely. I don’t judge anyone else who does it differently, I’m just a real black & white thinker.