I completely agree that men face serious social inequalities.
But please do not think that the source of these inequalities are entirely due to the attitudes of women (or feminism).
In my opinion the single biggest thing holding men back is not women's attitudes but men's.
I say this because for positive change to happen, it needs to be men fighting for equality (by that I mean working alongside feminism, not fighting it), and being activists for their basic rights as human beings (just like it's been women fighting for theirs for the past 150 years).
The vast majority of men I have met do not think a guy can be raped. It's very difficult to even talk about with it being turned into a big joke: "it's only rape if she's ugly" etc. It's not taken seriously at all.
I also find that not only women but men too are deeply distrustful of other men around their children.
One guy I know pulled his kid out of the kindergarten because he found out there was a male educator working
About the inequality present in family courts, I don't know much about this because in my country genders are equal in the eyes of the courts.
Regarding domestic violence, I think this is a huge issue and one of the issues that women need to step up and take a lot of responsibility for. There is a social acceptance towards women hitting men.
Men may be far less likely to die or be seriously injured at the hands of their female partners, but that doesn't mean they aren't experiencing severe psychological abuse.
That said, MEN need to be starting men's welfare centres, MEN need to be talking to their peers about domestic violence, MEN need to be communicating with their friends and family to make sure they are not blind to abuse happening right before their eyes.
Men are usually ashamed to admit their female partner hits or otherwise abuses them. This shame is the result of a variety of stigmas, often associated with the idea that men should be strong/authoritative/dominant, especially in a relationship. The idea that the man should "wear the pants" is still a widely held belief.
It's considered emasculating for a women to hit a man, but it shouldn't be considered emasculating at all. It should be considered abuse of one person by another -- nothing more nothing less.
Men need to learn to talk to each other more, become more open about their emotions and experiences. Because I think stoicism is a learned behaviour and a deeply harmful one.
Don't think I am heaping all the responsibility or blame on men. Women are also guilty of believing shit like "men can't be raped" or "it's okay to slap a man". Women are guilty of rape, women are guilty of domestic violence. Women also need to step up and have a big change of attitude.
But for lasting positive change to come about, I believe change needs to come from within masculine culture and spread outwards.
The point I am trying to make is that the Men's Right movement seems to focus exclusively on anti-feminism, anti-femininity, or on blaming women for the problems experienced by men. It is very rare that I see MRAs taking a more introspective view. There is an almost religious worship of masculinity and virtually zero consideration that some parts of masculine culture may be harmful to men.
There are other movements beside the popular MRM you might feel better about identifying with. I consider myself a masculist, which is like the male equivalent of feminism.
Yep, there are toxic masculists out there too, but in general masculism is far more focused on equality with a focus on men's rights (such as the right to not be abused, the right to be treated with dignity and respect when reporting a rape, to be allowed to take part in the education of children etc).
True egalitarian masculism I believe is compatible with feminism at all times, and the same in reverse. If there's conflict, somebody has gotten hold of the wrong end of the stick.
If you believe in social justice of the type that affords autonomy to all people regardless of sex or gender, please revisit your stance on feminism. There is a lot of extremely insightful feminist theory and philosophy that is also relevant to masculism and men's rights. You don't have to agree with all of it (I certainly don't), but don't write it off entirely thanks to the actions of misguided individuals.
I personally haven't written of masculism because of the toxic individuals and I don't think you should write feminism off for equivalent reasons. Please give it some thought. If you want to know more, I highly recommend the Wikipedia article on the history of feminism. This is a good starting point for understanding how the movement for gender equality came about, and how it can be applied to men as well as women.