I understand, I've been in similar positions. I think that's the one unfortunate thing about the #metoo movement--as we're constantly hearing about the swamps being drained of disgusting predators, it makes innocent people unnecessarily paranoid. If you hear about something all day long, it affects you. All these sexual offenses we're hearing about are collectively "me too," although they run the gamut from violent rape, to groping your friend's ass. Yeah, groping a friend isn't good, but it's nowhere near serial rape.

Again I hope I don't offend anyone with this comment. I am not trying to downplay sexual assault. I just personally don't consider what you did to fall into that category.

Maybe TMI but my husband publicly gropes me in a "flirtatious" way all the time. Sometimes I'm in the mood but most of the time not (LL). So sometimes it gets really annoying and pisses me off. But I don't consider that sexual harrassment, although theoretically some people might. But I'm the "victim" and don't feel victimized, and it's my perspective that determines where it's sexual harassment or not. Or at least that's what human resources tells you!

(*Disclaimer--not addressing individuals--be they simply hypersensitive or just malicious--who accuse others of sexual advances/crimes that they didn't commit. False rape accusations, etc. Obviously their perspective would not be an accurate indicator. That's when the reasonable person standard comes in.)