Confession: I hate/distrust/don't respect women

Hey, I'm also not Orthodox, but also strongly considering converting. And I'm a woman.

I'm not going to lie, reading your post had me really gritting my teeth, but I read it yesterday and was still thinking about it today, so I decided to respond.

Re: sexual assault. I would never, literally ever think of making a false rape accusation against a man. However, my life is to an enormous extent structured around avoiding being raped by a man. It's a little better now that I'm older and away from the college scene, but my husband still has to walk me back and forth from the train station when I get home from work after dark (which is every day in the winter), I am still mindful of being around strange men at gatherings, etc.

Re: your point about divorce. I know tons of single moms, including my own, who work constantly, all day, every day, to make sure their kids have good lives.

Re: equal pay. We're in such a double bind when it comes to marriage and kids, at least in the US. If we want to have children, our career is going to suffer, we'll be accused of expecting favoritism at work, we'll fall behind. There's no part-time work option for when your kids are small (I would be thrilled to work 3 days a week and get paid 3/5ths the salary, just to keep my career and resume going while my kids are little, but that's literally not even an option in most fields). If you give up and don't work at all, even if your husband is the best, most dedicated man in the world who would never divorce you, you have to worry about your husband croaking suddenly and you no longer being able to support your kids because when you've been out of the workforce for 5-10-15 years, you have to start at the bottom again.

Just a little window into how the other half lives.

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