Conflicting thoughts when thinking about my future with MO

Don't have a definitive answer for you but I will say that if you don't feel wanted at all that's gonna be impossible to keep dealing with.

Looking at your other post -- it sounds a little like you wanted her to flirt more, but then framed it to yourself as "she'd do more of that if I was more attracted to me" which might be true, or it might just be insecurity on your part that she got sick of dealing with. Your comments about inexperience are leading me to wonder it's more of the latter, but I wasn't there.

I can tell you that I left my last LTR partly because my ex was insecure. It's frustrating, because you can't really console the person, and it sucks to have your commitment doubted (since nobody's 100% sure anyway) and then you start wondering if they're right.

In any case, it's totally reasonable for you to want to have sex more than a couple times a month. And it sounds like she wants it both ways -- you're "disgusting" for masturbating, but you guys aren't having sex often, so what does she expect? She doesn't get to decide if you're celibate. Or practically celibate.

I don't have advice on how to rekindle your sex life together, since I don't know how to do that, but I'd say that your options are to either do that or leave. Sticking it out when you're not getting what you want isn't really tenable, at some point you're going to get fed up and put less work in, and it'll just be passive aggression city.

I think if you want a girl who's a little wild, you're going to have to find her. But be careful what you wish for in that regard -- it can be a lot of work keeping up with someone else's kinks if you don't share them to at least some degree.

I'm with the people who said going back to porn is not going to help here. Keep the pressure on yourself to reach a solution, whatever that ends up being.

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