Being bisexual can feel confusing. But the good thing is really there's no rules.

I was often very confused when I was younger because as a man I had rather conventional heterosexual standards of attractions to women, whereas attraction to men was more sporadic, some very handsome men did nothing for me, but others were a gut-punch how smitten I would be with them.

I would wonder am I gay? Because I'm really attracted to this guy and this guy alone. But I was still attracted to most women. But not as much as this guy, what if I'm just tricking myself into being straight? The simple answer took me the longest time. I like all these women, I really like this guy, I am bisexual.

I look back and this confusion lead me to missing out on a lot of opportunities with both genders. I never took steps towards those guys I really liked, I didn't take steps towards women because I was like this is unfair if I'm actually gay.

It's really dumb now that I look back on it.

What made it worse was I'm a sub. But I thought maybe I was a dom. Because I'd look at pictures/film of female subs and really like it but it wasn't because I wanted to dom them as I was pretty much mistaken, I wanted to be them (a sub, not a woman I'm very comfortable about my gender).

So I guess in summary, it doesn't really matter, you do you and be happy.