Could This be the Start of a Love Triangle?

I'm so glad you brought the aspect of filling a void I didn't realize was there. You're so spot on, in that my friend and I have worked together in variating circumstances. First he was just a manager I had heard of and seen, then he was an acquaintance due to networking. When I was a subordinate, he was also the manager that had the keys to the room where the medical supply fridge was held (I was storing breastmilk there after my first daughter) so we became more aquantainted that way because I had to talk to him 3 times a day to get the key and he inevitably knew what was going on.

Then we moved to a closer working relationship where I'm able to help him and directly support his team goals and prove myself a leader. I think for him, he admires what he helped to build to his level, and truly beyond in the work setting.

When that subordinate relationship dwindled and I became more a peer, we move to a pure friendship where we aren't working together but in the same place for the same company with the same knowledge. We continue to have common ground. And of course, the other things I mentioned during my relationship that I made him aware of.

Sorry to type this all back to you, but it's really helping me understand that I'm far more infatuated with the complexity of this...for the reason that you stated: complete uncertainty of where it could go. It's like I'm challenging myself to keep it progressive. Naturally, relationships cap which is for the best and this has made me realize that.

It's fun to think about, I can't say I will be able to mellow my curiosity about it, but it's much too fragile to act on.

To your point about job change, of course I could. But I'm deeply devoted to the mission of my company, and they're currently putting me through my degree program so not best for me in this moment. But...im certainly glad I could say that instead of acting on this mess and saying "fuck me, help!".

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