hey OP it seems like you met a sleazy guy who just wanted a quick shag in a cheap hotel who clearly doesn’t have the money to cater for your needs.

usually how it works is you go for a meet and greet to see if you get along (usually dinner or coffee). then you’ll go for a few random meets that includes fancy dinners and nice hotels. After that you would usually start a monthly allowance arrangement (you can filter out cheap guys by tips people give on this subreddit)

there’s plenty of SDs out there who will treat you right and they won’t take you to cheap hotels.

but perhaps even after what i’ve said if you’re still not convinced then maybe this isn’t for you.

i wish you the best of luck OP!