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I had some bad shit happen before my mom and bio dad divorced. Before the divorce was final, my mom was at Notre Dame finishing her MBA. My brother and I were with her (I was 7, bro was 4). Bio dad drained the accounts and we had to move back home with our grandparents while my mother finished school. I had to see a pediatric psych before my grandparents (who I believe are the only reason I didn’t kill myself) could get temp custody. The psych said that I was ok for now but once I hit around 15, I was going to need therapy. She was fucking correct.

As part of the custody agreement, We still had to see my violent, alcoholic, neglectful bio father. Some kids are resilient. I was not. I hit 15 and spiraled. You know your SD. You know what kind of bullshit is being whispered in her ear. Do not let a therapist bullshit you. You may hear things that you don’t want to hear and they may be painful, but you will be able to tell when they’re flat out wrong.

I’ve been on the receiving end of it. It affected me in the worst way (other than shit talking my amazing grandparents, there was abuse). It was confusing as fuck to have this scary person talking so badly about the two people who I knew would keep me safe in this world.

I wish you and your family all the luck in the world. You seem strong. Keep it up.

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