My grandmother is also gaining weight, to the point where she needs to go to a doctor to trim her nails once every couple months because she cant reach them.

She constantly tries to diet, but it never works. I live with her and she cooks some of the most fattening homestyle comfort foods ever, but thinks that since she eats a salad at every meal it must he healthy. She puts button on her salad too. Sometimes I get Papa Johns and it comes with those garlic butter dipping cups, well she won't use the garlic butter on her slice of pizza, but she will use the whole cup on the salad she ate before hand.

On one hand it pisses me off that shes wasting a whole cup of that delicious garlic butter, and on the other it pisses me off she thinks she's being healthy. She genuinely thinks there's just something wrong with her that she can't lose it.

It sucks so bad when you can't get through to someone who is a loved one. I don't want her to be unhealthy, but I risk my own mental health and our relationship if I keep trying to convince her.