Couples who have different sex drives, how do you make it work in the bedroom?

It crosses my mind that the only person likely to have this problem would be a passive individual. They would be confused, puzzled and yet curious or intrigued as to what a solution might be. The one thing they can't seem to rationalize, or deduce is that the answer is a rather simple one, honesty. Not with your partner, but yourself.

Let me explain. You are bored in the bedroom, it's quite stale and you don't know how to spice things up, or you don't know how to tell your partner you want that f'ing BJ and you want it right God damn now. All you can think of is her velvety soft glossed lips, moist with anticipation, slightly parted as half lidded eyes stare into your soul, pleading for approval. How?

Let me explain. You are feeling lonely lately and all you want is a little acknowledgement that she still finds you sexy. Maybe not the down and dirty sexy from when she first met you. That irresistible piece of man or women meat that needed every nook and crevice explored with a wondering lazy finger, but appreciated. As a partner appreciates another partner in a sexual way. Appealing, appetizing. It isn't even for an affirmation of that spark, more a lesser carnal qualifying of a mutual respect of each others needs. How?

I could do this all day honestly, whatever the individual case or reason 'you' (points finger at your eye as you read this right now - 'poke') yes; you, are reading this, know that I do indeed have the answer for. I honestly do and the answer is honestly, honesty. Right, for 1 bitcoin, sent to my PM, I can give you all the answers you need to make your marriage, relationship or partner attentive to all your needs. For 1 bitcoin, I can share with you the answer, which comes from inside you! You have it right now, infact everyone has this answer and that answer is already right there, right in front of you. It's whispering to you right now as you read this, and together, you and I can listen to it. Listen to it tell us that there is nothing in life you can ever have until you understand what it is you first want. For 1 bitcoin I will help you shape that desire into a coherent paragraph that you can selflessly communicate, honestly, completely and assertively with zero fear of rejection. PM me now, I have the memory of a fruitfly and this offer won't last long. I might forget that the answer! Ahhhh, it's slipping already... Was it, 'Never ask your partner to do anything you won't do first?' Was it, 'How do you communicate to your partner that you find them appealing. sexy or even delicious?' Maybe it was, 'The opening,'. That opening move you do when you signify, hey it's time. Bah, that gets stale and boring in itself, or maybe you don't even have an opening. Yikes, that might be two bitcoins. How do you even open? That's a book for the ages, huh?

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