Here it goes. We are married 22 years, 2 adult kids. And i love my wife, i really do. never in 22 years i ever touched another woman... or man if that matters. in the beginning - first 5-6 years the sex was perfect! Few times a week, even when she had her period. bedroom, bathroom, car, garage - different ways, hand-job, blowjob, anal. nothing was taboo, and she wanted to try it all. at least ones. every single time we had sex she would have orgasm. Then over the years - it came down to less and less. Ones a week, ones in 2 weeks, ones a month, ones in every 2 months... And today... basically the last time we had sex was month and half ago. And this is my life for last 15 years at least. We cuddle, kiss each other, touch... but it does not go more than that - if i advance she lets me know that she does not want it and i stop. We talked many times, I begged, explain, discuss, agreed upon to and then in a month or 2 all would go back to old ways. 15 years is a long time and i tried everything in the test book to reach her. and then - 2-3 years ago we stopped talking about it. I stopped talking about it. I accepted the situation - she got happier. The reason i gave up on her is that - I am seek of begging. and every time we have sex i have this feeling that she makes me a favor - a quick one. The sex, or whatever left of it - is always the same, always in the shower, with water running - always same routine... i will not be describing it here. The thing i don't understand is that she enjoys it! Every time we have sex she enjoys it! It not like she is grossed out by it! No she likes it a lot! But then she does not want it again until next time in 2 month! To answer how do we make it work in the bedroom - we don't, i masturbate according to my needs, feel like shit every single time after it, feel angry and sad every single time after it and carry on with my life. She - i dont even know...