Yes, he sounds like an ass.

I pack for both of us willingly and he gets/wears whatever I pack.

My husband's luggage would have been sitting in the middle of the airport while I went on my merry way with my luggage, and my husband knows it. However, he carries everything for me, including my purse when I use one.

I have PDA and the quickest way to get me to not do something is to tell me to do it. Husband found that out early on when he told me to change into a less-revealing shirt. I changed into a pushup bra and even lower V-neck shirt and that's what I wore out. He's not tried to dictate what I wear since.

Know your worth and what you deserve.