Cute guy at the gym. Not sure how to approach him.

I generally avoid talking to ppl at the gym (especially women) and I also try to avoid being talked to. It’s just not a great spot for that kind of thing IMO. Preferences aside it’s just like open and obvious to everyone there what the conversing pair are doing. Plus there’s the fact that generally everyone will hear your convo which will prob be a little awkward at the beginning. Maybe if you pass each other on the way to the bathroom or water fountain you can get a comment in, but I’d just do that to open the dialogue and keep the convo short. Plus keep in mind he’s basically no different than every other guy who looks at girls while they’re working out. The only real difference is you have projected some kind of reciprocated feeling toward him.

Like you said, you know nothing about him so I wouldn’t go thinking too much about it and create a false scenario before you talk more. That’s a good way to get disappointed. And I wouldn’t do that thing that girls do to me which is like intentionally work out in front of me so they can get my attention. I’m straight & I find many of them attractive but I find that kind of behavior to be rather annoying and a little gross tbh. Like you’re they’re to work out. Going to the gym to be seen isn’t inherently wrong it just gives me a weird feeling about the ones who do that. When that happens I generally just ignore their existence and act like I don’t see anything so I can wait and see if they’re gonna get frustrated and storm off when they don’t get my attention (most do this), or if they’re just at the gym to workout like a normal person.

Maybe your gym experience is different and I’m not saying it’s a lost cause. All I’m saying is like places other than the main area are better and directly talking to a guy comes off better than trying to get him to talk to you. The parking lot on the way in/out is another good spot you can stop and chat. Really just try to get some positive experiences with the person and let the rest play out. Don’t try too hard, build it up in your head too much, or go too far out of your way; cuz there’s a good chance you’ll end up disappointed. Good luck.

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