You have every right to choose how you deal with this trauma, and I want to make that very clear. I just want to provide a possible explanation for your friend's actions after you told her.

I can believe someone reacting like that. What you just described is completely horrifying to me. Literally horrifying. The pain, fear, and lack of control makes me physically anxious, and I didn't experience it. I have experienced an accident during sex but my partner stopped immediately. I still cried from the pain and was SO upset that it even happened.

If this happened to a good friend of mine I can see myself being VERY distraught that they just wanted to drop it. Your friend probably wants to protect you and is just so frustrated and hurt that this happened but they can't do anything about it.

If I am being honest, I would need time to calm myself down before continuing to talk to a friend in this situation. That may sound selfish, but I would do it out of a recognition that I'm not thinking clearly and need to get myself right so I CAN support them effectively. I genuinely don't know if I could effectively be there for them immediately if I heard them say what you're saying. I KNOW it's not about me, but just reading your post made me so fucking angry at the person who hurt you, and I don't know either of you. Picturing it happening to say, my sister, makes me see red. I am not a violent person, but what you said happened to you makes me feel so emotional that I wish I could take it out on the person who hurt you. And again, I don't even know you!

Give your friend time to calm down. This isn't about them, but it doesn't mean that they can react in a perfect way immediately after hearing that someone they care about was assaulted in such a horrifying way. We're ALL human, and we want to protect our loved ones. It's hard to hear something bad happened, and even harder to hear that nothing will be done about it.

I hope she comes around quickly and let's go of her anger so she can support you. I also hope you aren't letting the fact that there was alcohol involved cloud your decisions on moving forward. It's not an alcoholics fault if they're raped just because they had something to drink.