Thanks. Again replying playing devils advocate and trying to under the thought process. Also never said I was HL. Lol let's not jump to conclusions now. that won't help anyone and just make you seem very defensive vs helping people here under the other side.
1000% Agree to the helping around the house and kids.
But you understand their is helping out because it's your home and responsibility. Then their is also helping out because you are in a good mood and want to contribute to the positive (seemly positive) energy and keep that feeling of closeness, love and connection going. Again I hope that's the case with OP. That's how I read it.
For example: if my partner knew clean floors always get me in the mood I'm sure they would try to do it often (more than 50% of the time). However, that might not always be the case for me, But her intentions might be by cleaning she is contributing to me being in a positive mood which in turn might help me feel more relaxed and as such also show more intamacy.
Food because it's a basic need that it the closest relatable. I can give examples of Rain and shelter too. But not everyone salvates, feels warm inside, remembers, desires, or has a favorite shelter like they do with a favorite dish / person, that they want to share an intimate experience with.
On the harassment note: yes and no. OP speaks to Everytime "we" cuddle. Meaning two parties are involved. (again how I am reading it) I wouldn't jump to harrasment right away. Not like they are forcing the cuddling or touch. For the wife in OP's post that might be enough vs for OP it is not. I don't think throwing words out like harrasment are helpful here because I'm sure the OP's side is equally suffering and feeling harrased or tourchared, otherwise they would not take the time to post / seek understanding and help.
HL vs LL as I understand it is like temperatures. One person might feel warmer than the other one or colder. It seems like OP feels frustrated that they are always the one having to wear the extra layers and be uncomfortable where as the other party isn't having to suffer that and OP is venting / reaching out to find help /understanding.