I met my Owner at my first munch. The timeline wasn't quite linear. When we met he was still with a partner or the relationship had just ended and they remained friends. I also started dating someone and quickly got into another relationship. The only "issue" with that one was that we were both subs.

A month or so in I had an itch she couldn't scratch, namely that I wanted a Dom which is partly why I got into BDSM in the first place. He was the first person I knew in person that I thought of because he was always kind and I'd picked his brain about protocol and D/s a couple of months before.

I was the one that approached him about a dynamic. I knew he'd been interested in me, too. At my first play party he'd been asking about me and everywhere I was he was usually there, too.

We started off slow and now we've been together a little under a year. It's been an amazing experience that I wouldn't trade for the world. We are 24/7 and live together. We have some elements of TPE but have relaxed it for some reason despite my wanting it to be less lax. In that respect communication is important.

Approaching him about a dynamic was the best decision I've ever made. It took a lot of courage and negotiation in the beginning but we found a strong common ground and foundation. It's doable but highly individual. No two dynamics are the same. I know a couple that have been together for years and the sub still hasn't been collared whereas I was after 4 months.

Don't base yours on anyone else's. Don't assume because he's the Dom that you can't be the one to approach him. The most important thing is that you enjoy yourself. One thing he always says is that protocol is important, bur it can't take the fun out of a dynamic. There are many nose boops and other silly things.

Have fun, settle back and enjoy the ride. You won't regret it.