I used to feel guilty. I don't really care anymore. I was abused too and I didn't choose to be an asshole, so that's not a very good excuse

I've learned to take people exactly as they are. Not any type of version of them that I've created in my head. Or that they've manipulated me into thinking exists. Yes parents are supposed to be x y and z. It would be really great if my parents could be those things. But they are not, they never have been, and chances are they won't ever be.

I know it's hard to see reality when abusers mess with reality and make it seem like if you just tried harder or did something differently, they would treat you better. They fill you with guilt on purpose to get you to stick around for more abuse. That's the purpose of all the guilt.

Mentally healthy parents teach their children that no matter who is hurting them, even if it's them, they have a right to protect themselves. To be their own person with their own emotions. That they're important and should never feel guilty for sticking up for themselves