Daily Discussion 17 November 2018

I've always really enjoyed being alone anyway, so I've not been very social or thriving. But in my bachelor's I met some people who I was close enough with, they'd invite me to hang, I'd go about half the time and I guess they were fine with me not saying yes every time so it worked out well. But I also gained a lot of weight during those three years of studying and it affected my self esteem to the extent that I didn't want to go out to bars or dancing since I just had no confidence in 'dressing up'. So I'd just hang with them when it was a movie or board game night.

Now I've started a Master's and I've got the people I'll go out for drinks with (but none are heavy drinkers, more like 2-3 glasses of wine and then home) and then I've got some people I go for tea/coffee/lunches with or we hang at their place and cook something. But honestly, I still don't have any *close* friends that are new. Just a handful from my HS and my long term SO. Also about 4-5 of my close friends live far to other country far from me so we chat weekly, but clearly I'm not hanging out with them during a weekend which makes me feel like I don't really have any friends.

So the conclusion of my ramble is; I have friends but they're not super close and I don't feel pressured to drink (but then again I'm a bit older and doing my MA now) and the close friends I do have all live far away so I still never hang out with them. But I enjoy being a lone wolf in that sense and I suspect I have a mild form of social anxiety because after actually going out for a night, I feel like I need a people detox.

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